Dear Julie

Dear Julie, I don't know what it's like to live your life and I never truly will. All I know is the words you write that I, in turn, quietly read. Sometimes they hurt me. Sometimes they empower me. Sometimes they make me feel so sad for you. Sometimes I share them with my relinquished … Continue reading Dear Julie

When Does an Adoptee Voice Stop Being Elevated Above All Others

"I'm not traumatized by my adoption." "Not all adoptees feel that way." "You say adoptee voices matter most but I guess that's only if they have a bad adoption story." A year ago I would presume to stick my nose into a debate between adopted people. Today I am very cautious and calculating about doing … Continue reading When Does an Adoptee Voice Stop Being Elevated Above All Others

I Can See the HorizonĀ 

Sleep found me easily and peacefully. I usually suffer from insomnia and will lay awake for hours praying that slumber will come upon me. A peace I'd never known before washed over me as all of my children were under my roof in the same place at the same time. The people I value and … Continue reading I Can See the HorizonĀ 

The Promise

I told myself I wouldn't cry. I didn't want to scare her. I didn't want her to think this stranger was emotionally unstable. Then I worried if I didn't let myself cry she'd think maybe I was emotionally inept.  I changed my shirt 3 times. I was about to change it a fourth time when … Continue reading The Promise

Operation Matthew 6:25-34

Welcome to one of the most coercive pre-adoptive stories you will ever read. Take a seat and prepare to look through a "story book" that defines coercion and duress in expectant mothers. I almost titled this post "Faces of Adoption Coercion: Level Infinity." Meet Tuesday Laine Watson and her husband, Josh. Tuesday is very young, … Continue reading Operation Matthew 6:25-34