I was added to a "parenting" group several months back by a birthmom acquaintance. It seemed to be a pretty cool group. They were "woo-free" which means nothing not scientifically proven. They believed in trigger warnings and seemed pretty feminist and non-judgmental. Until today. A member, Monique, posted a screenshot of a private message her … Continue reading All Parenting Groups Suck – Including This One; When Adoption Spills Into Real Life and No One is Educated
"I'm not traumatized by my adoption." "Not all adoptees feel that way." "You say adoptee voices matter most but I guess that's only if they have a bad adoption story." A year ago I would presume to stick my nose into a debate between adopted people. Today I am very cautious and calculating about doing … Continue reading When Does an Adoptee Voice Stop Being Elevated Above All Others
I've been sitting on this post for several days. I wasn't quite sure why I wanted so badly to blog about something that happened. In hindsight, it seemed trivial. It seemed like it was just drama-stirring and I couldn't justify doing it for any other reason except to get revenge. So, this not being a … Continue reading Creating a Family: Talk About Infertility and Douche Canoes
Raw adoptee pain and a must read for all birthmoms. My Birth Mother left me a message on my cell phone about closure.
The thought had never even crossed my mind. I did a birthmother survey and that was all I ever expected to do as far as polls go. However, first I had one, then a few more, adoptees ask if I would consider doing a survey of adoptees. Like my birthmother survey, I'm sure it was … Continue reading Voices of Adoptees – The Results of the Adoptee Survey