"I'm not traumatized by my adoption." "Not all adoptees feel that way." "You say adoptee voices matter most but I guess that's only if they have a bad adoption story." A year ago I would presume to stick my nose into a debate between adopted people. Today I am very cautious and calculating about doing … Continue reading When Does an Adoptee Voice Stop Being Elevated Above All Others
On August 26, 2016 I heard the news that a dear first mom friend of mine was no longer with us. The previous day, beautiful Gwen had decided that the pain was too much and bowed out of this circus called life. Just before her decision, she deleted dozens of her first mom friends. I … Continue reading In Loving Memory of Gwendolyn Archard
As my relinquished daughter gets older it's become more difficult to keep up with personal updates in regards to my adoption story. The older she gets, the more I realize that it isn't just my story to tell and I have become conflicted about just what to share and what to keep private. I see … Continue reading The Adoption Rollercoaster: Reunion?
This New Year's Eve I have taken some time to contemplate where I've been, where I am, and where I'm going. A new year is upon us, and that usually comes with resolutions we make with all the best intentions, but somehow fail to follow through with. I don't even bother anymore. This year, so … Continue reading A Reflection For New Years
I'm sure, by now, I'm loathed by most who have found themselves in my corner of the world wide Web via an innocent Google search about how to adopt a baby. That's okay. I get it. My writing is blunt and I don't mince words. I'd like to take some time, however, to speak directly … Continue reading Dear Hoping to Adopt