To Preserve & Protect: When the Family Preservation Movement Catches On; Your Voices Have Been Heard

I know that when I first started speaking out in favor of family preservation I felt as if no one would get it, especially not people who adopted, never in a million years. Most other birthmoms didn't get it. The general public, at large, thinks adoption is beautiful because they've seen pictures and videos throughout … Continue reading To Preserve & Protect: When the Family Preservation Movement Catches On; Your Voices Have Been Heard

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Our Mother’s Day Mosaic

How can one be a mother yet not a mother at the same time? How can one be a daughter yet an orphan all at once at never at all?  How can we walk that line of in-between and straddle both worlds of decadent joy and pure loss? . Mother's Day is complicated and almost … Continue reading Our Mother’s Day Mosaic

Not So Permanent & Irrevocable After All

A little over a year ago, the daughter I had not seen since just a few months before her second birthday was in my arms again. You can catch up on that BY CLICKING HERE ON THIS HYPERLINK. I never would have imagined we’d be where we are now. Without going into too many details, … Continue reading Not So Permanent & Irrevocable After All

Dear Julie

Dear Julie, I don't know what it's like to live your life and I never truly will. All I know is the words you write that I, in turn, quietly read. Sometimes they hurt me. Sometimes they empower me. Sometimes they make me feel so sad for you. Sometimes I share them with my relinquished … Continue reading Dear Julie

When Does an Adoptee Voice Stop Being Elevated Above All Others

"I'm not traumatized by my adoption." "Not all adoptees feel that way." "You say adoptee voices matter most but I guess that's only if they have a bad adoption story." A year ago I would presume to stick my nose into a debate between adopted people. Today I am very cautious and calculating about doing … Continue reading When Does an Adoptee Voice Stop Being Elevated Above All Others