First, I'd like to congratulate you. A big huge "congratulations" coming your way. Why? You should feel special. It's because of you this blog exists. It's because of you that other adoptive parents and hopeful adoptive parents have changed the way they think about adoption. It's because of you that countless moms have decided NOT … Continue reading To My Daughter’s Adoptive Parents On Her 18th Birthday,
..pink bundle, perfect, beautiful, needing me, wanting me, all you need.. ..self-hating, worthless, lies I tell myself, that I believe, can’t see, truth.. ..society doesn’t want me to be, judgment and words that cut me, help me cut you.. ..out of my life.. ..forever severed.. ..stranger in the crowd, faceless child of … Continue reading Sincerely Yours No More
Domestic Adoption Support Group founder, Jessica Bortz Schaap, took to Facebook today to address the screen shots I've been taking from groups with unethical admins and members. She put a "live video" call out asking all of her fans and followers to report the Facebook page that accompanies this blog, Musings of a Birthmom. She … Continue reading The Facebook Files: Domestic Adoption Support Group Admin, Jessica Bortz Schaap, Goes Facebook Live!
I know that when I first started speaking out in favor of family preservation I felt as if no one would get it, especially not people who adopted, never in a million years. Most other birthmoms didn't get it. The general public, at large, thinks adoption is beautiful because they've seen pictures and videos throughout … Continue reading To Preserve & Protect: When the Family Preservation Movement Catches On; Your Voices Have Been Heard
How can one be a mother yet not a mother at the same time? How can one be a daughter yet an orphan all at once at never at all? How can we walk that line of in-between and straddle both worlds of decadent joy and pure loss? . Mother's Day is complicated and almost … Continue reading Our Mother’s Day Mosaic