As my relinquished daughter gets older it's become more difficult to keep up with personal updates in regards to my adoption story. The older she gets, the more I realize that it isn't just my story to tell and I have become conflicted about just what to share and what to keep private. I see … Continue reading The Adoption Rollercoaster: Reunion?
In the adoption community, from birthmoms, adoptive parents, and even the occasional adoptee I often hear statements about adoption being the "destiny" for the adopted child. Some of these statements include, but, of course, are not limited to: "I knew from the first time I met them (adoptive parents) they were meant to be -insert … Continue reading It Was Meant To Be – Using Religion to Justify Adoption
It's almost 1 am. I'm up and thinking. New information. New facts. New revelations. A big bubble in my "birthmom" life has been popped. Things I thought to be are showing me that they really aren't. I can't seem to wrap my head around it all. There is turmoil right now but also cautious hope … Continue reading The Clock Just Keeps Ticking
A love that will stay and persist without limits, without prerequisites. No matter what. To show unconditional love is to put yourself aside for the well-being of someone else. A sacrifice of one's self because of this love. To voluntarily endure pain, hurt, disappointment, and more in the name of this love. To put someone … Continue reading Unconditional Love
With an alarming number of women who were promised open adoptions having the door slammed shut in their face, I thought I would write about some methods that can be used in order to solve this problem. Almost every search group will not search for a child until they are 18 or 21 years of … Continue reading How to Find Your Child’s Adoptive Parents – A Step by Step Guide