Life Without Adoptionland

Sometimes I want to come outside of this broken down little home I've made on the far side of Adoptionland, this house I've barricaded myself into so no one can get in, and more importantly, so my uncontrolled rage can't get out and do anymore harm.

To My Daughter’s Adoptive Parents On Her 18th Birthday,

First, I'd like to congratulate you. A big huge "congratulations" coming your way. Why? You should feel special. It's because of you this blog exists. It's because of you that other adoptive parents and hopeful adoptive parents have changed the way they think about adoption. It's because of you that countless moms have decided NOT … Continue reading To My Daughter’s Adoptive Parents On Her 18th Birthday,

Independent Adoption Center Goes Belly Up Without Warning

Yesterday and today, without warning, hundreds, maybe thousands, of prospective adoptive parents checked their email and found that the adoption agency they had been working with (see: paying) was no longer in business. Some were near the end of the adoption process and already have children in their homes and are just waiting on finalization, … Continue reading Independent Adoption Center Goes Belly Up Without Warning

Legally Enforceable Open Adoption Contracts in the United States

*Disclaimer: I am not an attorney and nothing in this article should be substituted for legal advice. I highly suggest any expectant mother who is considering adoption to retain her own legal representation who understands adoption law in the state that the adoption will be finalized as well as the state she lives in. This … Continue reading Legally Enforceable Open Adoption Contracts in the United States

Short & Sweet

It's been some time since I've updated here at Musings of a Birthmom. This will be a short, sweet, personal update to explain my absence - for anyone who should care. My husband had back surgery about 3 weeks ago and his recovery was more than anticipated. He's required a heavy level of care-giving that … Continue reading Short & Sweet