Sibling Grief In Adoption

"I never know what to say when someone asks me how many brothers or sisters I have." This came out of my 12-year-old's mouth while I was driving the other day. There was no warning for a statement such as this. No conversation that I can think of that brought it on. We were listening … Continue reading Sibling Grief In Adoption

Life in Limbo

My last personal update was in the middle of January so I figured it was time to write again. I've been struggling a bit more with things, in regards to adoption, and I think that getting it all out would be helpful. I am almost finished writing a memoir novella about the time of my … Continue reading Life in Limbo

The DNA Test

For Christmas I got myself a 23andMe DNA test. Some people wondered why. Most people who utilize these tests are extreme genealogy buffs or are in search of biological family. Because of my experiences working as a search angel in various different groups I have been able to develop a deep appreciation for tests such … Continue reading The DNA Test

Letters From the “Kept” Siblings

Today I will open up an intimate part of my life for all of the world to see.  I will share with you a few letters that IKL's sisters have written to her.  I do this in order to show that the effects of an adoption are much broader than one may think of at … Continue reading Letters From the “Kept” Siblings

On the Edge

Lately I have been going back and forth about being honest and forthcoming about my feelings on adoption with those around me and in my life.  It's hard to explain to people how you can love those in your life that are adoptive parents and still hate the industry.  Some people don't understand how you … Continue reading On the Edge