Here we go again. Another blog post about what NOT to say to a birth/first/natural mother. Right? Wrong. I've seen them done a few times. The lists. What not to say to an adoptive mother. What not to say to a birthmother. What not to say to an adoptee. I can't speak for others in … Continue reading Top 5 Things Not To Say To A Birthmother
Life has been busy. I started working full time, in addition to going to school full time. I know I've been neglecting this blog and I really wish I had more time to write. There are so many good things in the works right now, as far as family preservation efforts are concerned. I can't … Continue reading If….
"Had I loved him any less - one ounce less - he would be with me now! My love for him was the only thing that could enable me to break my own heart." I saw this picture floating around social media the other day. I was bothered by it immediately. On the surface it … Continue reading Killing Them With Their Love
We all know there is a huge debate in the adoption community about the ethics surrounding breastfeeding in adoptive mothers. Some have even gone so far as to call this practice child abuse. The reasons stated for this will not be the same reasons that I give, however, I understand the sentiment. I have more … Continue reading Dying To Breastfeed
When us "older" birthmoms try to tell pregnant women, who are planning on giving up their babies, that they have fallen for the coercion of the industry, we are often faced with opposition. Whether that industry is agencies, attorneys, or the media, in general, they all seem to parrot the same types of statements. "I'm … Continue reading Adoption Romance and the Subtle and Pervasive Influence We Are All Subjected To