Sometimes I want to come outside of this broken down little home I've made on the far side of Adoptionland, this house I've barricaded myself into so no one can get in, and more importantly, so my uncontrolled rage can't get out and do anymore harm.
I told myself I wouldn't cry. I didn't want to scare her. I didn't want her to think this stranger was emotionally unstable. Then I worried if I didn't let myself cry she'd think maybe I was emotionally inept. I changed my shirt 3 times. I was about to change it a fourth time when … Continue reading The Promise
Here we go again. Another blog post about what NOT to say to a birth/first/natural mother. Right? Wrong. I've seen them done a few times. The lists. What not to say to an adoptive mother. What not to say to a birthmother. What not to say to an adoptee. I can't speak for others in … Continue reading Top 5 Things Not To Say To A Birthmother
A love that will stay and persist without limits, without prerequisites. No matter what. To show unconditional love is to put yourself aside for the well-being of someone else. A sacrifice of one's self because of this love. To voluntarily endure pain, hurt, disappointment, and more in the name of this love. To put someone … Continue reading Unconditional Love
These people in my family and close friends that have loved IKL from afar may not have the opportunity to ever know her or even hug her, just once, and tell her they love her. She may never be able to have the privilege of having these wonderful people in her life.