Life Without Adoptionland

Sometimes I want to come outside of this broken down little home I've made on the far side of Adoptionland, this house I've barricaded myself into so no one can get in, and more importantly, so my uncontrolled rage can't get out and do anymore harm.

Our Mother’s Day Mosaic

How can one be a mother yet not a mother at the same time? How can one be a daughter yet an orphan all at once at never at all?  How can we walk that line of in-between and straddle both worlds of decadent joy and pure loss? . Mother's Day is complicated and almost … Continue reading Our Mother’s Day Mosaic

The Cult of Birthmother’s Day – A Mother’s Day Celebration For First Moms – #Not a BraveLove

It's almost electric, the emotions flying around social media this time of year. Like a storm brewing or a dam waiting to explode from too much pent-up pressure in the tidal wave of water, Mother's Day elicits an almost primal, and strong, response from those of us in the adoption community. Especially us first/birth/natural mothers. … Continue reading The Cult of Birthmother’s Day – A Mother’s Day Celebration For First Moms – #Not a BraveLove

The Modern Day Maternity Home

It is so pervasive, to me, to offer women help with their crisis pregnancy when you know full well that the moment she walks through that door that all you will do is plant the seed of adoption