I know that when I first started speaking out in favor of family preservation I felt as if no one would get it, especially not people who adopted, never in a million years. Most other birthmoms didn't get it. The general public, at large, thinks adoption is beautiful because they've seen pictures and videos throughout … Continue reading To Preserve & Protect: When the Family Preservation Movement Catches On; Your Voices Have Been Heard
In 1997, in response to the growing crisis of older children languishing away in, and aging out of, foster care, President Clinton created the Federal Adoption Incentives Program which is an annual performance bonus awarded to states that facilitate the most adoptions of children out of the foster care system.
The amount of the award would be calculated based on the type of adoption facilitated and the change in numbers from 2007 to the current year.
- $4,000 for overall adoptions of foster youth
- $4,000 for foster youth that were identified as “special needs”
- $8,000 for foster youth between ages 9 and 18 years old.
To determine the amount of the bonus the state would receive, 2007 numbers would be compared to the current years numbers and the difference would be multiplied by the dollar amount shown above.
For example: Let’s say Missouri successfully facilitated 150 adoptions out of the foster…
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I was added to a "parenting" group several months back by a birthmom acquaintance. It seemed to be a pretty cool group. They were "woo-free" which means nothing not scientifically proven. They believed in trigger warnings and seemed pretty feminist and non-judgmental. Until today. A member, Monique, posted a screenshot of a private message her … Continue reading All Parenting Groups Suck – Including This One; When Adoption Spills Into Real Life and No One is Educated
How can one be a mother yet not a mother at the same time? How can one be a daughter yet an orphan all at once at never at all? How can we walk that line of in-between and straddle both worlds of decadent joy and pure loss? . Mother's Day is complicated and almost … Continue reading Our Mother’s Day Mosaic
A little over a year ago, the daughter I had not seen since just a few months before her second birthday was in my arms again. You can catch up on that BY CLICKING HERE ON THIS HYPERLINK. I never would have imagined we’d be where we are now. Without going into too many details, … Continue reading Not So Permanent & Irrevocable After All