Tag: loss

Adoption Grief

Top 5 Things Not To Say To A Birthmother

Here we go again. Another blog post about what NOT to say to a birth/first/natural mother. Right? Wrong. I've seen them done a few times. The lists. What not to say to an adoptive mother. What not to say to a birthmother. What not to say to an adoptee. I can't speak for others in … Continue reading Top 5 Things Not To Say To A Birthmother

adoption coercion, saving our sisters

Guilt, Coercion, Threats – A New Mom Changes Her Mind – SOS In Action

UPDATE: Almost $1100 was raised for Clara in less than 24 hours! You are all amazing!! As some of you may know, we are in the process of legitimizing our grassroots organization called Saving Our Sisters (SOS). The goal of SOS is to help vulnerable women avoid adoption relinquishment. Over the past couple of years … Continue reading Guilt, Coercion, Threats – A New Mom Changes Her Mind – SOS In Action

Birthsiblings, Grief

Sibling Grief In Adoption

"I never know what to say when someone asks me how many brothers or sisters I have." This came out of my 12-year-old's mouth while I was driving the other day. There was no warning for a statement such as this. No conversation that I can think of that brought it on. We were listening … Continue reading Sibling Grief In Adoption

Adoption - Generalized, Loss

Ambiguous Loss

Adoption always begins with a loss for the birth parents (and the rest of the birth family) as well as for the adoptee. Putting your finger on exactly what is lost can be difficult.

Adoption - Generalized, Death, Grief, Loss

She Will Never Know Them

These people in my family and close friends that have loved IKL from afar may not have the opportunity to ever know her or even hug her, just once, and tell her they love her. She may never be able to have the privilege of having these wonderful people in her life.